Rules for a Life That You'll Never Regret
There are so many modules out there for healing and finding ourselves, its enough for any of us to feel f*cked up! Its common to misunderstand the hardships of life, the inevitable suffering that Buddha teaches us about in the 4 Noble Truths, as a personal affront.
In fact, many of leading psychologists agree that the biggest issues they see on the couch aren't from the problems that people have, but from the fact that people have an irrational belief that they shouldn’t have problems at all. And its that total illogical wish for a problem-free life that creates many of the dysfunction they treat. Quite often instead of accepting that "life is suffering" as Buddha plainly puts it, we search endlessly for a remedy for our pain.
We embark on an endless search for the right teacher, the perfect "something"-free diet, the right mantra or some cryptic quest for greater understanding and ultimately we end up in some cerebral labryinth, spinning out endless reasons why we are the way that we are, and hoping that some way of healing will some how arrive. And in the process, life passes by and we miss out on participating.
There are some other Rules that we can follow, not as another sceptre to pick up and then cast away, but as general guidelines to enjoy the small time we have on this planet. Yes, we continue to work on our stuff, but as yoga teaches us, the words of the intellect can weigh us down, lead us into an endless myriad of "mind masturbation". Our minds serve us, but can also be our greatest enemy, leaving us paralyzed as we wait for the moment that we are better. As the great Behavior Therapist Albert Ellis said, when asked on his 90th birthday, what he had learned after being a Therapist for 70 years: "Everyone is F*cked up"! In short, we need to practice living, as imperfect beings.
The rules for dropping into life are as follows:
- Life is too short to spend it alone in our heads trying to resolve past issues.
- Process, but don't turn painful experiences into endless suffering.
- Don't take ourselves and our sh*t too seriously.
- Remind yourself you're never alone. When we recognize a Higher Power, we know we will never be abandoned, left to sort out our issues by spinning words around in our minds.Let the Path of our lives unfold.
- Get tantric, meaning anything that allows us to experience the pulsation of life, the ebb and the flow is a definite YES!
- We need to sift through past adversity to the effect that it impacts us right now, but don't overanalyze or allow the process to paralyze.
- Have fun!! This.Is.Your.Life. End of story.
- Now, now, now and only now. F*ck the past, it doesn't serve us at all.
And finally, most importantly, give ourselves this gift: See ourselves as whole right now. There is no future time we're going to be fixed or better or more complete. So, get out there!